Category: Couples Counseling
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Dark Emotions : The nature of Fear
Fear is a distressing emotion aroused by a perceived threat. It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of danger. In short, fear is the ability to recognize danger and flee from it or fight, also known as the Fight or Flight response. Some…
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Schrodinger’s Cat : Not This, Not That
“Writing, to me, is simply thinking through my fingers.” – Isaac Asimov Here is a post I wrote up a little while ago, but had forgotten to make visible. I had initially jotted down these ideas in order to prepare a paper for the Consciousness Conference in Tucson, but eventually did not present at the…
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Karmic Justice
For some reason, this blog, the blog about Karmic Justice, published quite some time ago, has been making news in the blog statistics. It has been meaningful to me during this interval, a beacon of light that I myself read often. It is something that allows me to stay the course of ethics, and morality,…
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The Culture of War and Aggression
The thoughts expressed in this weblog are different from the usual psychological insights that I share with the readers. These thoughts have constelled over last few years/months, as I experienced disturbances in interpersonal relationships with colleagues. These disturbances were all related to differences in ethical and moral standards. I tried to understand those aberrant, unethical,…
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Honesty, Integrity and Trust….
A few days ago Karin wrote a wonderful blog on trust, that started me thinking about the construction of trust as well. What is trust, do we ever stop to think of what the word actually represents ? I mean what does it contain, beyond the word-symbol ? Trust is a composite feeling that we experience…
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Deal Making with children : Impact on Adult Personality
I started this blog around the time Channel 33 had scheduled an interview with me about childrens problems. But it took a while to get it here. When I get a feeling of being manipulated, I am deeply resentful. To some others, manipulative behavior may be just a normal, “reasonable” and “logical” way of relating. It even represents decent, civilised behavior…
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I will have 1 connection for dinner, thank you…!
I recently attended a mid year dinner with a group of colleagues at a nice Chinese restaurant. Round table, great ambiance, the usual small talk, some big talk, marketing issues, and other stuff. Next day we discussed it some in supervision – my take on such processes, and my experience of bonding through such a group meet. This is an analysis of my…
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Perceptions of Time
“People like us, who believe in physics, know that the distinction between past, present, and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion.” -Albert Einstein Long ago, around the year 2001/2002, I went to my first Vipassana meditation retreat, where I had some extremely powerful experiences. It was there, amidst the eternal silence of the majestic redwoods, the pure mountain…
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The dynamic dance of Non-duality & Separation
For a long time, I have been wanting to write about the dance of duality and non duality that engages us in our everyday life even if we have little awareness of the moves. I had abundant experiences but few words to describe them – perhaps they were not organized into cognition. For an unknown…
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Patterns of Silence
Just a quick note based on something I wrote to a friend’s daughter about problems in Kashmir. A Jungian tale I recently heard, a marker for our times. Once there was a severe drought in a village. There was no water, so all vegetation died, and there was no food for people. The cattle started dying…
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The Observer and Observed Effect
I don’t have much to write this week, except about a personal experience and resulting insight. So this will ramble, but bear with me, please. I noticed during my meditation that thoughts arose in my mind only as a consequence of the differentiation between the Observer and the Observed. As long as I am able to separate the…
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The stretched psyche: The stretched string
It is 8:42 on Friday night. I pulled at my laptop, wanting to write about Shadow element of our personality. However, as I start typing, the fingers seem to have a mind of their own. So here I am, sitting with a hand written article on Shadow, willing to transcribe it, but with a psyche…
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In The Shadow of the Contained
In the Shadow of the Contained Cynical, I’d thought you at first; and judgmental. But when you laugh, your face relaxes – A smile teased out of a little boy in an unknown Italian painting. Your cheekbones, are they high or low? Moustache? Glasses? I’ve never noticed, nor the rest of you, having been mired…
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The Morphed Psyche : Developmental Perspectives on Hate
Hate! Such a strong word, vibrant and alive in its texture, like a crudely cemented floor, so uncomfortable to walk on bare foot. It causes wounds whenever and wherever your feet touch it. What is it? How do we get into it? How is it first created? How is it perpetuated? And what can we…
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Disconnection and Sex
Sex is such a pervasive element of our adulthood, of our existence, and we accept it as a characteristic of human existence. That one will grow up, and have sexual feelings is a given. But we never explore how these sexual feelings came into being within the human psyche. And what if it were a derived…
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Dismembering the goddess : Effects of gender wars and marital failures on young adults
Abstract for a paper being prepared for presentation/publication Though feminists claim to have opened up the world for women, numerous positive and life enhancing qualities of the feminine aspect of human nature, especially the spiritual dimension of the feminine, has been denigrated by the very feminist leaders who claim to speak for all women. A…
Madhu Sameer 